I was musing this morning about some of the advice I’ve had through the years. Friends have insisted I should relax more, and have more fun. I’ve been encouraged to go out more and attend more parties, and asked many times to spend more time with family and friends… yet at times, I actually prioritise working over those things. It’s not always the right choice, and maybe it’s controversial, but either way, here are 3 weaknesses that successful people have which I believe are actually strengths.
1. They’re uncomfortable: they feel so much discomfort about where they are currently at, that they are willing to commit and follow through to do what is necessary. They see more pain in remaining the same, than their fear of change. They deny the desk job, with the aim of the dream job, and they’re willing to stay out in the cold rather than a life of pure comfort which ultimately goes nowhere. We need challenge to grow, whether in our job or in our relationships. It’s discomfort which is the change agent that forces us to grow, as we’re always moving toward a better outcome, with more pain and less pleasure. Successful people are acutely aware of this current discomfort, and that weighs heavily in their decision to achieve more now, to gain more freedom later on.
2. They’re not the most popular people: truly successful people are rarely the most popular. They may have more power and status, yet others may have a more charming personality. But they get results, where others give up. They persist and keep going even when others fail to continue. They inform themselves, take action, and prioritise the most important things over social engagements, impressing others & being the most likable one at the party. It’s true, we all like to belong, and to be loved. We all secretly wish to be the most popular person, to validate that we are worthy human beings worthy of appreciation, gratitude and love… yet it’s a trap to need that too much. Remember to appreciate yourself, and recognise what you do well. Always strive for better, and to appreciate others too, but don’t fall into the ‘popularity trap’ - seeking popularity just for validation. Validation cannot give you freedom, at the end of the day.
3. They’re Weird to Conventional People: most people don’t understand the mentality which goes into massive levels of success. The eccentric behaviour of over-worked individuals which have put in thousands of hours getting good at one thing. Most people prefer to be generalists, and to pursue a life of instant gratification rather than the struggle and sacrifice it takes to become truly successful. If you are willing to stand out, and to be the weird one in the bunch who hasn’t given up on their dreams and ideals, that they reach levels of abundance that aren’t possible for those ‘normal’ people.
Ultimately it's important to ask yourself if you’ve got the commitment it takes to be successful, because freedom doesn’t come for free. It must be earned. It must be learned and acted upon. It must be committed to. You must know what you want most in your life, is it freedom? family? relationships? If you are willing to forgo the good, to get the great then ultimately you will become great in the process.
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