Being mentally strong can be an enigma, something which is a puzzle to work out. But as you observe the success of others, and model that, things become clearer. In this first in a 2 part series, I will present the first 5 of the 10 habits of mentally strong people.
1. They Have Clear Boundaries: there's only so much bad behaviour they will take, before they make their preferences clear to other people. They don’t suffer the ill-will or abuse of others because they remove energy suckers from their life, and maintain a social circle of like minded people who seek adventure, challenge and enjoyment in life, rather than complaining about the lack in their life.
2. They live from Abundance: when you appreciate what you have in life you get more instantly. More enjoyment, more value, more appreciation. When gratitude becomes a habit, you don’t need to live with resentment of what you don’t have. Moreover you don’t project that scarcity mentality onto others, and complain that others have the money, the car, or the house that should be yours. The good things in life come to those who value what they have, and appreciate those around them
3. They Remain Optimistic: as renowned survival expert Bear Grylls suggests, optimism is a necessary survival skill. When you criticise or get down on yourself, it brings your energy level down and that might be the energy you need to find food, shelter or escape your environment. It might also be in having the right attitude if your children are testing your patience today, or your business isn’t going your way. Patience and persistence, with the right attitude of optimism can carry you through the storm and let you come out the other side, more successful than before. So if things ever get too much just remember to appreciate and affirm the good in things.
4. They take Calculated Risks: mentally strong people don’t fear taking risks, they calculate and inform themselves, and ultimately take the actions they know they can take, because they’ve learned that life involves a certain amount of risk taking. Ultimately it’s those who don’t take risks are the one’s who will never reap the rewards, because they give up on themselves before they’ve even started. They review the risk in terms of its benefits, costs, best-case, worst-case & what they can do to fix it, if the worst were to occur. That way they have a plan, whatever happens.
5. They are the boss of their own life: they’re too concerned about leading their own life to be overly concerned about what others think. They stay out of other people’s business, and invite them to do the same. They’re agenda for their own life is what matters to them, rather than to be at the whim of other people's requests and following someone else's goals for their life. They’ve got a clear vision and next actions to take so they’re not being controlled by others, they work their own path.
Ultimately mental strength is a choice we make each day, because our thoughts go on to form our behaviour, and it’s our behaviour which shapes our path in life.
Check out tomorrow’s post to find out the 5 reasons that mentally strong people have so much resilience, resolve & why they’re the most likely to be successful.
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